Finally, after almost 11 years of working for a multinational company, I decided to leave the paint refinish world behind. I'm taking my next steps forward to another world, a world that I have already known, as a full-time mother.
For the first couple of weeks, I felt liberated, scared, excited, a little bit sad (leaving all my colleagues and especially those lunch time moments) and then it felt like a lot of ideas started popping into my head. One of them is continuing to write in my blog in which I haven't wrote any posts since 2008.. (wow that was like 5 years ago..).
Many of my colleagues have been asking me what I would be doing after I resigned. When I told them I wanted to be a housewife and full time mother, most of them looked at me with a face of disbelief. Are you sure? Can you handle being at home not doing routine office work? Are you ready to have less income or become fully-dependent on your husband for financial purposes?
Well, my answer was that I had thoroughly thought about this for sometime and had already prepared for this at least a year ago, including setting up a plan with my husband how he would be the breadwinner and primary source of income to cover our monthly expenses.
And luckily for me, I already had other activities and businesses at home: My 'kos2'an business (a monthly room/flat rentals for employees) - has been running for 2 years now as this business does not need full-time attention, I can work on another business from home. Another business is a baby products business that has been running for 5 years (wow! amazing isn't it?), thanks to my best friend who is already very capable in starting-up a business from scratch and expanding it until now, while I have been a silent partner for the last 3 years.
Below are some tips that might be useful for you if you want to resign from your current job/corporate career and be a stay-at-home parent:
1. Run through your financial needs and calculate them yearly and monthly.
2. Check for unnecessary expenses and cut those expenses off, such as buying a branded bag, or those expensive shoes... If you’re looking for decent quality stuff, just go to Mangga Dua, ITC, or wait for a SALE; I do realize Jakarta always has a big sale by the end of year, mid big SALE on June (Jakarta's birthday) and during Lebaran/Idul Fitri... so don't worry... just be patient and you'll get what you want in a discounted price (although you might not need it)..
3. If only one source of income is not enough, then discuss this situation with your spouse to look for new means of finding more income. This can be looking for another job with higher pay, find ways to increase more pay in current job or find side resources of income outside of your spouse’s main job.
4. I considered my plan as being blessed, because about a year and half ago, my company announced that my business unit will be sold to another company, as this owner transition allowed me to choose not to continue to the new entity and according to the Indonesian law (no.23 2013), I will be entitled to have my severance payment which I can use to start a business from home.
5. Have other activities besides taking care of your children... You have to keep your identity as yourself, not as your husband's wife, or your children's mother, or your parent's daughter.
6. And my last tip is: Enjoy... enjoy and enjoy your valuable time with your family!!
*ps : thank you my dearest husband for editing!